|
Post by Girl Power on Jun 10, 2007 11:38:56 GMT -5
no updates in my screwed up life...I am watching Into The Woods right now... I sent another super long PM! I just watched this super funny movie called Idiocracy about how stupid people are the ones who have the most kids, so in a few centuries they will take over the world. Then a very average guy who was frozen in our time wakes up and he's the most brilliant person alive. It's hilarious. I don't know it you'd like it, but it made me laugh a lot. Try to find some stuff to distract yourself from the pain at least for a little bit each day. Hugs! Maria
|
|
shivs
Supernatural Hunter
lives fast, dies never
Posts: 713
|
Post by shivs on Jun 11, 2007 1:48:06 GMT -5
oh Arnaud, I'm so sorry to hear I'm with gerry, nothing I can say could make you feel better but maybe it helps if you imagine that its just some molecules which makes you feel bad, its all about chemistry after all as time goes by your heart will heal, thats for sure, I hope it will be soon *Love is a bitch*
|
|
|
Post by Girl Power on Jun 12, 2007 13:49:57 GMT -5
How are you doing today, Baby? I'm thinking about you!
*BIG HUGS!**
|
|
|
Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 13, 2007 6:22:39 GMT -5
Hi Guys...
Christina, thanks for your support as I know you've been there...
Maria, I wanna tell you how much respect I have for you. I have read your pm, and it helps me feel a little, a tiny bit better...Thank you so much for all those kind words, and other stuff you are giving me...
I started to have a nervous breakdown, and I forced myself not to last sunday...I was about to have a real tantrum in front of my mother and refused to allow myself that kind of childish behavior...Truth is I feel like he's the only who can reassured me...I am avoiding all contacts with people who love me, except my mom...I start acting like a bitch, and I hate that...
I watch that very good movie, with Andy Garcia and Meg Ryan, When A Man Loves A Woman, last sunday night...It hurt me so much to see how human beings can have so many mental/ Emotional issues...I cried a lot while watching it...It doesn't solve my pain, but I sure need to let it out one way or another...
I get also very angry at people who don't really know anything about Matthew and I relationship...They are being judgemental, and can't accept that...As I have a hard time accepting a lot of things right now.
I write everyday about my pain...And I don't know where it will lead me. I just hope it'll be a shinier place, where I will start to believe again...
That's where I am at today...
|
|
|
Post by shep on Jun 13, 2007 9:45:58 GMT -5
I really feel for you. I am sure we all have had break-ups and its painful for us all, however as you said every relationship is different, but we can empathise with you.
I dont know you very well and If this sounds harsh tell me to piss off, but I think you need to start going out and enjoying life again. It may be too soon for you but you need to start doing things to take your mind off him quite soon. If you dont then you could end up pushing all your friends away, and end up even more down and depressed. You are a very handsome man Bloodyfenchy and are young too, so you deserve better than to be in so much pain every day. Try to do something every day that will take your mind of it (even if its for just 10 mins, thats a start). I am sure your friends and family will help you. Do you work? What are your hobbies?
Ali x
|
|
|
Post by shep on Jun 13, 2007 9:48:38 GMT -5
Sorry if the above post is abit harsh but I am just trying to help. We are all here for you xxxx
|
|
|
Post by Girl Power on Jun 13, 2007 17:30:40 GMT -5
I really feel for you. I am sure we all have had break-ups and its painful for us all, however as you said every relationship is different, but we can empathise with you. I dont know you very well and If this sounds harsh tell me to piss off, but I think you need to start going out and enjoying life again. It may be too soon for you but you need to start doing things to take your mind off him quite soon. If you dont then you could end up pushing all your friends away, and end up even more down and depressed. You are a very handsome man Bloodyfenchy and are young too, so you deserve better than to be in so much pain every day. Try to do something every day that will take your mind of it (even if its for just 10 mins, thats a start). I am sure your friends and family will help you. Do you work? What are your hobbies? Ali x You're sweet to encourage Arno to go and have some fun. But I think that when you've been with someone for a number of years and expect to be with for the rest of your life, and you lose them suddenly and without your choice, it will take more than a week to adjust to the shock and immense grief. You're right that some friends don't have the compassion or patience for a friend in pain. I think that at those times you find out who is a true friend and who is just around for the fun times. It's OK to have fun friends, but most of us need people to help us through the heartbreak. We spend most of our times alone with the pain, but it helps to know we're not alone and that others have gone through similar things. I think it usually become clear when you're going through something hard who you can lean on and who you can't.
|
|
|
Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 15, 2007 3:48:42 GMT -5
Hello Fellow members.
I try to remain positive as days go by. The truth is simple, Matthew and I still love each other, and I know he is my soulmate. For once in my life, I know something for sure, and it feels good. Things take time, and I am slowly healing, but I start to understand a lot of things about humankind. Matthew and I both have stuff to deal with related to our personal selves, and in order to grow up and move on, it seems a pause, or a break-up, whatever we can call it was inevitable, at least to realize some stuff, in order to become responsible and fully adult...
I love him more than I have ever as for today, and no one will take that away from me. I just gotta move on as an independant person, and we shall see where I'll end up.
Don't apologize for being harsc, Shep, that's fine.
Maria, thank you so much for being by my sides.Love
|
|
|
Post by Girl Power on Jun 15, 2007 12:52:50 GMT -5
Hello Fellow members. I try to remain positive as days go by. The truth is simple, Matthew and I still love each other, and I know he is my soulmate. For once in my life, I know something for sure, and it feels good. Things take time, and I am slowly healing, but I start to understand a lot of things about humankind. Matthew and I both have stuff to deal with related to our personal selves, and in order to grow up and move on, it seems a pause, or a break-up, whatever we can call it was inevitable, at least to realize some stuff, in order to become responsible and fully adult... I love him more than I have ever as for today, and no one will take that away from me. I just gotta move on as an independant person, and we shall see where I'll end up. Don't apologize for being harsc, Shep, that's fine. Maria, thank you so much for being by my sides.Love Big hugs, Baby! I'm glad that you are finding some peace about the situation. The most important thing is that you figure out what this means for you and where you go next. You're an incredible man and will have a good life no matter how this turns out.
|
|
gerry
Private Eye
Posts: 453
|
Post by gerry on Jun 16, 2007 2:10:30 GMT -5
Maria said something that stirred up a memory, that was the idea of "taking a break."
I will not even try to say that I know about the pain you are going through, some things that got me through some pain, both emotional and physical was finding places I could more or less hide for a brief moment or two. Sometimes it was in the gossip of others, but mostly it was in tactile sensations that I previously took for granted.
It was in moments of pain that I truely tasted the bitterness of coffee made with burnt beans, the feeling of fire traveling down my throat as I inhaled a long drag off a Camel Wide, or even the the bubbling of fizzy water on the roof of my mouth before I swallowed.
In the process of the day, it wasn't much. But it was a start.
|
|