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Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 7, 2007 11:52:19 GMT -5
Dear Forum and fellow members,
I just wanted to say that my absence was not due by a lack of interest in our community but just by life and its milestones...
I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and it will hurt me for a longtime as I will always love him...We are still best friends, but it's tough...
I don't wanna explain myself about it and I am sure you guys will respect my pain and my sorrow. Some of you have probably been through that kind of stuff or will know it eventually...
I told my close friends here that it was pretty much an à la Buffy and Angel relationship...Basically I am Buffy and he is Angel...Therefore, I won't draw you guys a picture, and I hope my heart will heal sooner than how I feel right now...
Arno aka Bloodyfrenchy
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Post by Girl Power on Jun 7, 2007 13:15:15 GMT -5
You know I'm here for you, Baby. I'm sorry for what you are going through. Breakups are awful. I'm glad that you are reaching out, because we all need support during these kinds of things. And, as you said, every one of us has been there.
It's so nice to see you back on the board. You've definitely been missed!
Big hugs, Maria
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Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 8, 2007 4:02:25 GMT -5
Thank you sweet heart, I need to be cheared up...I wanna believe I'll can go through this without losing my hopes and dreams, and it's going to be a long process...
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Post by Lior Knight on Jun 8, 2007 4:35:35 GMT -5
As I told your before; you never know what Life got in store for you, so never allow yourself to loose hope. Breakup are a horrible thing to go through when you've been in-love for so long. But, you have us! So let time to do its thing and let us to try and ease your pain.
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Post by shep on Jun 8, 2007 4:44:52 GMT -5
Sorry to hear your news Bloodyfrenchy. I was only wondering the other day where you were as you hadnt posted in ages.
All I can say is that time does heal.
Ali xxxx
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Post by tvilike admin on Jun 8, 2007 7:19:49 GMT -5
Awww!!! so sorry to hear you had this happen to you You got us here Arno and we will help mend that broken heart... Welcome back....
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Post by CK-- on Jun 8, 2007 8:37:18 GMT -5
I am so sorry that you are going through this tough time Arno. Just know that we are here for you ;D I am so glad that you are Back! You have been missed.
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Post by Girl Power on Jun 8, 2007 10:19:06 GMT -5
Thank you sweet heart, I need to be cheared up...I wanna believe I'll can go through this without losing my hopes and dreams, and it's going to be a long process... Just keep in mind that you have to grieve the hopes and dreams that you had for the two of you, but you will build new ones for yourself and the love you find in the future. It can take different amounts of time to heal for different people. Personally, I take a super long time to get over being hurt. But other people are better at moving on than I am. The thing that works best for me is to focus on the other person's bad points for awhile and why they weren't the right person for me anyway. I don't know if you'd be comfortable with doing that, since I know you want to keep him as such a close friend. But it really works. Even though you still want him in your life, I think it's helpful to get very clear about why he's not a good boyfriend for you. You are a very romantic, caring, loyal man, which makes this so much harder. I think you would have tried to help him through anything. The fact that he wouldn't let you is his choice. Your love and caring will be appreciated elsewhere. Don't ever doubt how amazing you are. And if you need to be cheered up, go watch the new Pirates movies. If you haven't seen it yet, be sure to rewatch the first two before you go. That makes the last one so much more fun and understandable. There are tons of references and plotlines that refer to the first two. Also, the first DVD has audio commentary from Johnny Depp. So you can watch with Johnny! What could be more fun? The commentary by the writers on both DVDs is the best. It takes you to a whole deeper level in both movies. I know that no matter what Captain Jack Sparrow will be able to distract you from your pain, if only for a little while. But the At World's End, the third one, has a sad ending, so if you haven't seen it before just prepare yourself. It's a decent end for Jack, though, so that's all that matter. And if you're still down after watching all those movies, just remember these immortal words: "I look HOT!" And flirting with THIS guy: And that Eva, Jack and I know how fabulous you are!
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Post by madvicks on Jun 8, 2007 14:00:56 GMT -5
Arno... I'm so sorry to hear of your plight. You seem like such a sweet and cool guy. I can only hope that Prince Charming is on his charger now heading in your direction. It's good to see you back though, I'd been wondering if you were okay or not. I missed you! Hugs and love! XXXX
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Post by gerry on Jun 9, 2007 0:43:06 GMT -5
I was trying to think of something supportive to say, but in the mist of heartbreak nothing I can say can really mean much.
I am sorry.
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Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 9, 2007 2:26:16 GMT -5
Contrary to what I thought, it gets harder and harder everyday...I can't sleep anymore, I wanna break everything around me, I wanna scream to the world that it is so unfair, and I just am so miserable ... I hate myself...Cuz Matthew and I both had issues, and I just realized that I subconsciously avoid some truths about myself, which I shouldn't have cuz it would have helped us...
I appreciate your support, really, and wanna believe your kind words and all the rest, but right now, I feel like a living dead, and don't know if it'll go away, even with time...
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Post by Lior Knight on Jun 9, 2007 5:51:44 GMT -5
Contrary to what I thought, it gets harder and harder everyday...I can't sleep anymore, I wanna break everything around me, I wanna scream to the world that it is so unfair, and I just am so miserable ... I hate myself...Cuz Matthew and I both had issues, and I just realized that I subconsciously avoid some truths about myself, which I shouldn't have cuz it would have helped us... I appreciate your support, really, and wanna believe your kind words and all the rest, but right now, I feel like a living dead, and don't know if it'll go away, even with time... You can't blame yourself for doing something subconsciously. And it takes two people to work on a relationship; what means both have to communicate to make sure the other side knows how they feel and if anything bothers them. So blaming yourself for not noticing stuff isn't right. Just try to get you mind off of this as much as you can. When you stop noticing how much time passed you'd start feeling better...just don't blame yourself - acknowledging your mistakes is one thing but blame won't get you anywhere.
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Post by Girl Power on Jun 9, 2007 11:18:58 GMT -5
Contrary to what I thought, it gets harder and harder everyday...I can't sleep anymore, I wanna break everything around me, I wanna scream to the world that it is so unfair, and I just am so miserable ... I hate myself...Cuz Matthew and I both had issues, and I just realized that I subconsciously avoid some truths about myself, which I shouldn't have cuz it would have helped us... I appreciate your support, really, and wanna believe your kind words and all the rest, but right now, I feel like a living dead, and don't know if it'll go away, even with time... I wrote you a long response, but it included personal info you've told me and stuff about myself, so I just sent it to you as a PM. The gist is that thinking that you could have done something to stop this from happening is the bargaining part of grieving (Willow's the only one who can bargain by actually bringing someone back). It's so normal to blame yourself and think that you could or should have stopped it. But you couldn't have. You have to look at what you know about him and his patterns. This seems like part of his pattern of self-destruction and isolation. Getting angry is normal and is actually good. It's another part of grieving. Depression is anger held in, so it's good to get that anger out. If there are too many people around, then turn on music an yell and scream into a pillow, in an empty house or driving in a car. You can even yell into the water in a bath. Just let that anger out, because it's so important to get it out. But don't blame yourself, Arno. It kills me to know how much you hurt. I've been there, where I thought the darkness wouldn't end. But I think it helps to focus on his flaws and letting out your anger. Go with whatever emotion you feel and let that out, but don't beat yourself up. You gotta stop yourself when you do that because it doesn't help you. You are such a great, wonderful guy. You don't deserve to go through this. As Charles Dickens said, "A broken heart goes on beating." Sometimes that seems like the curse of it: You are broken, but must continue living. But like everyone kept telling Willow after Oz left, the only way out of the pain is through it. You're not alone, Baby. *big hugs*
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Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 9, 2007 12:01:28 GMT -5
Once again, to all of you...Thanks a lot
I have to accept so many stuff in order to move on...I can't possibly think I'll go through that right now, but I have no other choice...A part of me is dying, and it's just unbearable...
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Post by bloodyfrenchy on Jun 10, 2007 3:11:17 GMT -5
no updates in my screwed up life...I am watching Into The Woods right now...
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